3 Steps to Turn Grumbling to Gratitude in Your Home

by | Sep 10, 2020 | Faith, family, Moms, Women | 4 comments


As we kick off a new school year, we are still in very unsettled times. We may begin with one direction and have to change course at a moment’s notice due to the Pandemic. Perhaps now more than ever, we need to keep our focus where it needs to be and remember how critical our perspective is.

Remember what God thinks of grumbling.

The first step to turn grumbling into gratitude in your home is to remember what God thinks of grumbling.

Sit down with your children and share the many Scriptures the Lord gives us that show the importance of praise and gratitude instead of grumbling.

Grumbling comes from the French language, which means “mutter between teeth.”

When we feel stressed, we think grumbling is a better option, but we forget how much God hates grumbling.

Why does God hate grumbling? Because, even if we don’t think so, it’s saying, “God, you’ve failed me.”

Also, the Bible talks about the grumbling Israelites in the desert. If you read in Exodus, there are chapters and chapters about this. But, it can be summed up in this:

In the desert, the whole community grumbled against Moses and Aaron. Exodus 16:2 God had a promised land waiting for them, but they only focused on the challenges. And He wasn’t happy with their attitudes.

Numbers 14:26-29 says, “The Lord said to Moses and Aaron: “How long will this wicked community grumble against me? I have heard the complaints of these grumbling Israelites. So tell them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the Lord, I will do to you the very thing I heard you say: In this wilderness, your bodies will fall—every one of you twenty years old or more who was counted in the census and who has grumbled against me.”

Jesus also said, “Stop grumbling among yourselves,” in John 6:43

And James 5:9 says, “Don’t grumble against one another, brothers and sisters, or you will be judged.”

By sharing these and other scriptures with your children, you will not just be telling your children something that you think they need to do, but you will be putting God’s authority with it. Children need to see that we are God-centered, and our directions have biblical backing.

Assess If There is An Underlying Reason For the Grumbling 

The next step to turn grumbling into gratitude in your home is to see if there is a root reason. Often we move straight to correcting our kids, instead of figuring out the problem.

This strategy can work in turning grumbling into gratitude with your home.

Ask yourself:

  • What is the situation?
  • How does my child feel about this situation?
  • What is a system I can create around the problem?
  • How can I make that system fun?


Hardwire Praise To Turn Grumbling Into Gratitude

The third step to turn grumbling into gratitude in your home is to hardwire praise in your heart and home.

We need to focus on God and the good, and then we will fully receive what God promised. But, we cannot do this of ourselves. It is not in us. We cannot tackle this problem alone. I’ve taught my kids to pray for the fruit of the Spirit. We cannot be loving, patient, kind, or grateful on our own. But we can ask God to work IN us.

Just like other emotions, gratitude is an emotion. It does not come naturally. It’s one that must be cultivated. We need to hardwire gratitude into our hearts consciously.

David, in the Scriptures, talks to himself and encourages his heart in Psalm 42:5. He asks himself why he is discouraged and tells himself to look up and hope in God! When we are tempted to grumble or be discouraged, we need to talk to ourselves using the scriptures as encouragement. What kind of conversation are you having inside your head?

It truly can become a habit if you work at it. As one of my friends calls it, we need to be “magnifying our mercies.”

Do you have an overwhelming amount of laundry? What a mercy that God has given you these little people!

– Is it rainy and cold outside? What a mercy that you have such a warm, cozy home!

-Are you behind in a specific homeschooling subject? What a mercy that with homeschooling, you can set your own pace and focus on what is most important at the time!

-Are you feeling overscheduled, overwhelmed, and unappreciated: “Thank you God that you have given me a sound mind to make healthy changes in my life and the strength to be strong in the things I can’t change.”

When we train ourselves to praise, it changes everything, and eventually, it can become a habit. The more we replace our grumbling with gratitude, the more we hardwire the right responses, and this is something we will carry with us for life.

We can make a habit of turning our grumbling into gratitude in our home. And if we do this, no matter what the future year might hold, whether our plans fall into place as we had hoped, or whether the Lord changes our path to something different- we can trust in His divine plan and praise Him in our home and our whole life!

What is something that you have done to turn grumbling into gratitude in home? I’d love to hear about it!




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  1. Christine Malkemes

    What a great reminder that grumbling begets grumbling and praise begets praise. From the words of our mouth we create. Let us take to heart your encouragement and multiply praise and thanksgiving.

    • Susan Tanyi

      Chris, what a great reminder about the power in our words. Praise breathes gratitude and thanksgiving!

  2. Elizabeth Popp

    Praise God! What a powerful and insightful message! I’ll work on cultivating gratitude in all things as it does not come naturally.

    • Susan Tanyi

      Yes, gratitude certainly doesn’t come naturally and I need to work at it daily to remind myself that there’s always a lot to be grateful for.

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