I started out with unrealistic expectations about motherhood. We all do. Until they are all shattered in the face of the harsh reality of life.
When my husband went for his annual health check up, he told his doctor who is a woman, that his wife was also a physician. Then he added that we had three little children who were 4 years old and under. To that, his doctor asked if his wife still worked. He answered yes, I was still working full-time. “She must be Superwoman” his doctor responded.
Superwoman! That made me burst with a sense pride when my husband told me what his doctor had said. Why? Because I thought someone had just validated me and seemed impressed that I could do it all.
Let’s admit the hard truth: we often find ourselves glorifying our busy schedules, giving ourselves a pat on the back or a high five, when we manage to squeeze in one more commitment into an already hectic schedule. We secretly admire others who seem to handle the juggling act of life and motherhood so well and wonder how they’re doing it all.
Yet I couldn’t be more far from the truth because in reality, I was struggling so hard to keep it all together.
As a wife, mother of three little ones and a physician working full-time, life was busy. With crazy schedules, hectic days and more times than I’d like to admit, things were out of control.
And for someone who likes to be in control, or seem like I have it all under control, I have wrestled hard to juggle it all for so long. That is, be a good wife, a great mom and be outstanding at my work. I wanted to do it all, be it all and have it all.
So I ran from one task to another and from one role to the other. Always rushing and hurried. I couldn’t keep up and I couldn’t slow down. Until I just couldn’t do it all anymore.
I GIVE UP!, I can’t do this anymore – I muttered to myself in tears, as I cried out to the Lord on my knees.
I felt as if I was drowning and suffocating in all of the obligations and responsibilities that I was committed to or that I thought were expected of me by others.
I was overcommitted and overwhelmed. Exhausted and expended. Running on empty, out of breath and on edge. Stressed and stretched too thin. Depleted, defeated and depressed. Anxious, frustrated and restless. Worn out, burned out and ready to GIVE UP.
How did I get here? Is this what I signed up for?
Who am I trying to impress?
Will I ever find balance with this crazy schedule?
How much longer can I keep going without losing my sanity?
Is this all there is to life?
These are just a few of the questions that flooded my mind.
Can you relate? Have you been there?
Everyone of us gets to a breaking point, when we’re weary and overburdened because we take on too much more than we can handle.
In Matthew 11:28-29, Jesus gently beckons us saying “Come to me, all you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”
We must come to terms with our own weakness and limitations because that frees us. When we finally admit that we can’t do it on our own strength, knowledge or wisdom. And look to Jesus, he sets us free. Free from the pressure we put on ourselves and the expectations of others. Free to fully embrace rest and enjoy the journey of motherhood, relying on God’s strength and wisdom, not ours.
In Isaiah 30:15 “This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says: “Only in returning to me and resting in me will you be saved. In quietness and confident trust is your strength”.
Friend, my prayer and hope is that, we would stop running from task to task and slow down long enough to consider what’s going on in our soul because it’s only then, that God will lead us on a path to find rest in Him.
I invite you to come to Christ and in the words of Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, “In Him, you will find:
Grace and Gratitude
Contentment and Courage
Peace and Perspective
Dependence and Delight
Trust and Thriving
Strength and Sanity
A Slower Pulse and Steady Praise.
Worship and Wonder
Restoration and Refreshing
In a word, REST.”
Dear Lord, I want nothing more than to know You and to recognize Your voice when you speak to me. Intercept the noise and chaos around me with your Word. Help me to stop and quiet my soul. I trust in You with all my heart. You are my strength and in You my soul finds rest. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
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