Proverbs 3:5 (NIV); “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;”
Do you remember what a blessing to witness the arrival of each of our children? After months of anticipation, the moment arrives when the doctor hands you a bundle of joy. The feeling is like no other feeling in the world. At that moment, they are perfect in every way. I don’t think words can truly express what that feeling is like when you meet your child for the very first time.
I gave birth to three beautiful children, two daughters and a son. I felt like a complete family as I cherished each one of them. At their birth, I thought about all my plans for their lives. Ballet classes, gymnastics, softball, karate, fishing trips, baseball, proms, and eventually, weddings would fill my years to come. Excitement filled my soul as I planned their futures filled with joy and happiness.
Soon, my dreams came crashing down as my son slipped into eternity to be with His heavenly father. All my plans for his life were gone forever. So many emotions rolled around inside me. Many years of doubt followed as I tried to figure out what I did wrong. Kids aren’t supposed to die. As a parent, I am supposed to protect my children and provide them with everything they need. I felt like a failure.
God’s in Control, Not Us
In our society, we have convinced ourselves that we control life. But we don’t. Our control is an illusion that helps us sleep at night. Once my son’s death forced me to take off my rose-colored glasses, I learned the best thing I could do was to surround my children in prayer. And, when things got tough for them, I could point them back to Jesus. My actual job as a mom includes teaching them to trust in the Master’s plan for themselves.
The hardest prayer for each of us as parents is to ask for God’s will to be done. So often, I want to control the events for everyone in my family. With the death of my son, I learned that I really couldn’t. I need to trust them to His loving arms. When the tough times arise, and I can’t control them, I need to pray for His will to prevail and for me to accept whatever that looks like for their lives.
As the years wear on, I watch my girls as their faith becomes their own. I can’t hold onto faith for them. They must develop that relationship for themselves. Sometimes, their struggles are tough for me to watch from the sidelines. But then I remember and give them over in my prayers to the One that controls the winds and everything under the sun.
Now, as the grandchildren fill my house with laughter, I have a new generation to cover in prayer. I also need to teach them to give all their troubles to their Heavenly Fathers. When they fear the darkness, I share about the creator of light and how He protects them in all circumstances. I also teach them Bible verses to recite when problems arise.
Our children are a gift from God. We raise them and teach them so many things throughout their lives. But, they are only ours because God entrusted them to us. Our job is to trust them back to God instead of trying to control life for them. Pray for them, instruct them in the ways of the Lord, and trust Him enough to pray for God’s will to be done in their lives and for us to accept it.
In Your Life:
What circumstance in your life causes you to want to try to take control of the situation? What steps can you take today to pray for God’s will to be done in all circumstances of your life?
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Yvonne Morgan. You will find my Twitter account here: https://twitter.com/ymmauthor
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Yvonne was born in Belfast, Northern Ireland, and is a wife, mom, and grandmother. However, she is most importantly, a lover of Jesus and passionate about prayer and missions. She is the author of Turning Mountains into Molehills (2017 4RV Publishing), which gives readers a first-hand look at her journey into the mission field. You can connect with Yvonne at www.turningmountainsintomolehills.org
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